By Annette Colby Finally you are alone. No one else is around. Maybe youve waited until they are all soundly asleep. You find yourself in the kitchen sneaking food. Sometimes its cake, sometimes its ice cream. Other times youre standing in front of the refrigerator eating leftovers without a plate. Once in a while, you plan ahead, stocking up on your favorite goodies on the drive home. Almost in a trance-like state, you begin eating the foods you dont want anyone to know you eat... in volumes you dont want anyone to know you want. You eat quickly, not wanting to get caught. The irony is that youre not really enjoying the food, youre not really hungry, and you dont know why you are doing it. Initially there is a sense of freedom, exhilaration, and relief. But something odd also occurs. When eating becomes secretive, it becomes both more exciting and more difficult to give up. A devastating cycle begins. The lure of sneak eating progresses, but so does the sense of guilt and failure. Of course, this leads to more sneak eating and on it goes. It becomes a overwhelming cycle that generates a life of its own. EMOTIONAL NEEDS
Sneak eating is a metaphor for real needs. These are needs that are typically not addressed. We think we shouldnt have them. Or we dont know how to deal with them. Its usually a time we can be alone, with all our wants and desires. It is a time we dont have to pretend to be capable, competent, pleasant, likeable, strong, and without needs. It is a time to be entirely self-centered, where you dont have to take care of the needs of anyone else and can focus completely on yourself. Sneak eating is about hunger. Hunger that develops because of the deprivation of strict diets, restrictive food plans, and the list of bad foods that you shouldnt be eating. Sneak eating is also a substitute for emotional comfort. A way to nurture the unaddressed feelings of shame, guilt, low self-esteem and loneliness. These feelings may be with you most of the day. It is only when the pace slows down, that the emotions begin to emerge. Not knowing how to handle these powerful emotions, eating follows. Eating in isolation can be a way of stuffing down emotions that seem overwhelming. Eating alone can provide down time without the interruption of family, work, or other responsibilities. THE 10 MOST POWERFUL FEELINGS YOU EAT TO KILL 1. Hurt 2. Guilt 3. Anger 4. Shame 5. Lonely 6. Anxiety 7. Self-hate 8. Disappointment 9. Emptiness 10. Deprivation These feelings are normal for every human being. We each need to take the time, and learn the skills, to sit with our emotions. Recognize that it is essential to know what is going on within our bodies. Know that you are important enough to take the time to be still and be with who we really are. Every person has wants, needs, and desires. We need time to focus solely on ourselves and satisfy our needs. Many of us were taught that these things were selfish and unimportant. We learned to disconnect and hide, lie and make excuses about our needs. We pretend we dont need or want pleasure. We substitute food for what we really needed in life. We end up with a love/hate relationship with food. We try to force ourselves not to eat, especially not to sneak eat. And we punish and criticize ourselves for not being able to stop. Recognize that sneak eating is not about your having shameful desires that cannot be controlled. Instead, sneak eating indicates that you have healthy, natural, human longings that you were not taught how to address. QUESTIONS
There are a variety of things you can do to help build-up your willpower and let go of the need to sneak eat. Discover what motivates your behavior by asking yourself a few questions as each incident occurs. * Where are you when you sneak eat? * What were you thinking about right before you ate it? * What were you feeling before you began eating? * What need is this food filling (or stuffing) in your life? * What else, other than food, would fill the wants and desires that you have? * What is it that you really need? Answering these questions and keeping a journal of your answers for future reference will help you understand what prompts your behavior. Your journal entries will serve as a starting place towards noting ideas. These ideas will help you work towards solutions once you are able to more readily recognize your pattern. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Helping people let go of self-destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has been the life work of Dr. Annette Colby. Her fascination with the power of the mind, emotions, spirituality, and physicality has led her to become a leader in the field of personal growth and consciousness. She is a valued counselor, and an inspiring teacher, as well as an independent writer, mentor, and guide. She is a highly sought-after trainer with a unique ability to inform and inspire individuals to open their hearts, love more openly, and pursue their dreams. Dr. Annette Colby, RD
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